Childhood and the Enneagram : The Stories that Shape Us

Type Three - Why Does My Child Take Losing So Hard?

Susan Parker Jones, LPCC, NCC

In this heartfelt episode, we step into the inner world of the Enneagram Type Three child—confident, motivated, and often praised for their performance. But beneath the gold stars and success stories lies a deeper question: Am I still loved if I stop achieving?

Join Susan Parker Jones, licensed therapist and author of The Wholehearted Child, as she explores how emerging Type Threes develop the belief that love must be earned through doing and impressing. Learn how to support your Three child in reconnecting with their full self—beyond the image—and find out how the Harmony Triad can help them slow down, feel their feelings, and rest in the truth: You are already enough.

Whether you're parenting a Three, teaching one, or healing your own childhood narrative, this episode offers insight, encouragement, and powerful tools to shift from performance to presence.